Showing posts with label happy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label happy. Show all posts

Saturday, November 25, 2017

Perspective


I went grocery shopping! 

I know . . . Boring, right?

But when you haven't done much except sit on the couch for nearly 3 months, even the mundane tasks of life seem exciting.

I've been thinking about that a lot lately actually--how your perspective can affect so much. We don't realize all the things we take for granted. You've heard the saying "You don't know what you have until it's gone"? Often we think of that statement applying to relationships and reminding us to appreciate the people in our life, but it can pertain anything. 

Like those mundane tasks.


Now that my ankle is in the process of healing and I'm able to get back to a somewhat "normal" routine again, I realize how the simple things can make me happy. I remember the excitement I felt when I walked from the couch to the kitchen. I didn't have to use my crutches! And the thrill of walking down the stairs to do laundry. Sure, it was a long process of putting both feet on each stair instead of going step-over-step, but I didn't have to scoot down on my bottom and crawl back up on my knees like a baby. I remember the day I was able to stand with the strength and ability to sweep and vacuum the house. And don't even get me started on the joy I feel every time now I get to organize an area of our home that was neglected for 3 months while we were in "survival mode."

Who knew that doing chores and simply walking whenever you want to could bring such happiness?

Too often, I think, we let insignificant things annoy us, cloud our judgment. It's easy to let little things  creep up and affect our attitude if we're not careful. I'm guilty of it, too. But, really, what good can come out of that?

A critical and unappreciative attitude robs you of your joy.


I carried a 3-ringed binder to classes with all my assignments in high school. It had a clear plastic cover that I could slide in a page on the front. Though I changed my decorative accents on the page from time to time, I always kept this quote from an 18th century French writer, Nicolas Chamfort: "The most thoroughly wasted of all days is that on which one has not laughed." (See, I was looking for Smiles all those years ago, too, ha.) It doesn't mean that you have to tell jokes or watch comedies every day, but it's a reminder to be intentional in keeping a good attitude. Negative circumstances happen all the time, but how you respond to them is what matters. The more negativity you dwell on, the less joy you find in the simple things.

I've always loved my role as a stay-at-home mom. The cooking, the cleaning, the raising of the kids--it has always been a rich, fulfilling life for me. And then we added homeschooling. And more kids. My responsibilities have multiplied. And somewhere along the way I think I lost a little of my love of caring for our home. I've gotten annoyed by the crumbs and bothered by the mess. Oh, it's not an everyday feeling, but now much more often than before it feels like housework. Chores. Responsibility. Work.

I let the busyness distract me from my joy in serving my family.

"You don't know what you have until it's gone." Yes, thankfully, my family is still here, but my ability to serve them was gone for months. It was a discouraging, helpless feeling watching everyone else take care of our home. And suddenly, I couldn't wait to sweep up those crumbs and scrub the toilets.

Perspective.


I'm still struggling with some chores around the house. What the mind says, the body doesn't always do. But as I'm listening to my body and trying to push it to strengthen the ankle (and knee, leg, and hip that also weren't used for months), I'm also trying not to push it to the point of greater injury. It's a difficult balance to find.

Every night I go to bed sore and exhausted. My body and my ankle ache. I have good days and then days when my ankle swells back up and walking is nearly impossible again. But even on those physically challenging days, I have chosen to be happy.

Life is good, for so very many reasons. And now again, I get to serve the people who bring me the greatest joy and blessings and who are part of my "many reasons."

I won't claim that the messes make me happy, but I will be thankful for what they represent. Food. Clothing. Learning. Fun. Life. Blessings.

Perspective.  

   
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Saturday, January 10, 2015

Choose To Be Happy


The kids were in the living room watching a learning video.

Me? I was sitting in the darkness of my room, cuddling a tiny boy. Enjoying his warmth. Listening to his breathing. Feeling his love.

The truth is that he had fallen asleep after eating and I couldn't bear to put him to bed and head back out to the rest of the family.

It had been a rough afternoon.

Fighting. Whining. Messes. Stress. I could feel my irritation rising as my patience grew thin. I was on the verge of losing my temper.

I needed a mommy timeout.

It was there in the stillness of that room that perspective was restored. I needed to calm down. The kids feed off my negative energy. If I was crabby, chances are they were going to be crabby too. If I was short-fused, they were going to be irritable as well. It did not excuse their wrongdoings, but it helped me choose to have a good attitude. I needed to stop focusing on the hardships of the day, and instead, choose to be happy.

Yes, it's a choice.




You cannot control your circumstances, but you can control your response to them.

I needed to choose to respond with patience and grace. Crabbiness multiplies, but so does happiness. It's my responsibility to keep the happiness level high in our household. Even when there's fighting and whining and mommy gets stressed, I realize this is just a season, a fleeting moment of time. These 5 little blessings of mine will be grown in just a few short years. There will come a day when they will no longer need me to make them a pb&j sandwich or allow me to wash the stickiness off their face. They will stop asking to sit on my lap or listen to me read a story. As time goes on, their independence will grow and their reliance on me will be nearly nonexistent. I want to savor these moments now, even on the craziest of days. The Lord has blessed us greatly. Instead of dwelling on the stressful moments, I choose to praise the Lord for all that He's done.

Praise ye the Lord. Praise God in his sanctuary: praise him in the firmament of his power. Praise him for his mighty acts: praise him according to his excellent greatness. Praise him with the sound of the trumpet: praise him with the psaltery and harp. Praise him with the timbrel and dance: praise him with stringed instruments and organs. Praise him upon the loud cymbals: praise him upon the high sounding cymbals. Let every thing that hath breath praise the Lord. Praise ye the Lord. ~ Psalm 150

I laid my tiniest blessing in bed and walked back in the living room, this time with a renewed spirit. Yes, I was still exhausted while the children had copious amounts of energy. Yes, I was still reminding them to be nice to each other. Yes, I was still reprimanding their wrong actions. But it didn't take long for my happiness to overflow to them. Within time, they too changed their attitudes. And once we all chose to be happy, the whole day was changed for the better.

There are always going to be hours or even days that are stressful, but we must focus on the blessings of God and His grace to help us through. And we must choose to be happy.

Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson 



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Friday, May 10, 2013

Things That Make Me Smile 5/10/13

Jake (7), Alyssa (5), Zac (3½), Tyler (1) 


Happy Friday! It's a long list this week, so . . . let's get to the Smiles!
 

1. Alyssa: "This shoe is tight on me."
Me: "That's probably because it's on the wrong foot."

2. Me, kissing on Zac: "I could just kiss you and kiss you and kiss you! Could I kiss you forever???"
Zac, leaning his cheek toward me: "Sure, go ahead."

3. Zac and I were awake early one morning.
Me: "Shh, everyone's still sleeping."
Zac, whispering, innocently: "You're not still sleeping . . . and Daddy's at work. Not everyone's still sleeping."

4. Going on a date with Jake to a special mothers' day celebration in his Sunday School class. 



5. Zac, because I gave him watermelon: "You're a sweetie!"


7. Tyler picked up a chocolate bar, looked at me and said, "Eat!"

8. Alyssa, looking through my kitchen utensils: "What's this?"
Me: "A meat thermometer."
Alyssa: "So you know if it's sick or not?"

9. Me: "Why are you crying?"
Zac, bawling loudly: "I don't knoooow!"

10. Zac: "I am the only one to love you."
Me: "Oh, are you?"
Zac: "Yes. I love you all by myself."

11. Alyssa: "Tyler has a double chin."
Jake: "So does Millard Fillmore."

12. While reading a character-building devotional book with the kids (review coming in a few weeks), I said "it was eating her alive," meaning that the situation was difficult and stressful. My children literally thought it was eating her alive! The looks on their faces were priceless.

13. Zac: "Is it my half-birthday?'"
Me: "Yes, it was."
Zac: "When's it going to be my fixed birthday?" (because if it's only a half, it must be 'broken'.)

14. Zac, sad: "Mommy, I love you, but Jake said you're always jovial. And you're not. You're mommy."

15. Jake: "If Dad doesn't sell his truck, can we fill it with shaving cream and leave it in the hot sun?"
Me: "Why?"
Jake: "So it'll blow up!"
Me: "Says who?"
Jake: "MythBusters." 

16. Zac: "I don't have an attitude now. See? My face is smiling."


What made you smile this week?


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Thursday, August 9, 2012

Happiness Happens

Yesterday was Happiness Happens Day! It's a day set aside to focus on the happiness that happens around us each and every day. It's so easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of living, to focus on the busyness, to acknowledge only the negative. It is a day to ignore all that and survey your life. Blessings are everywhere. If you're looking for them, you'll be overwhelmed. That's one of the reasons Things That Make Me Smile has become one of my favorite parts of the blog. It helps me to look for the happiness. It helps me be more aware of the blessings and humor in life.

The kids and I talked about some things that make us happy. There was a lot of discussion that accompanied the main points, but I certainly could not keep up with their excitement and random thoughts. Here's the list point-by-point. One kid would mention something, and the others would agree. I put the happiness under the child who said if first (except for the first thing on each of their lists, since they hadn't heard the others say it, but added it all on their own.)

Jake's List
Jesus!
Legos
Sugar Cookie (toy bear)
church and the pastor
and of course Jesus
and that He made a way for us to go to Heaven and He made it easy, too
Mommy
Daddy
Batman
that I'm older than both my brothers and sister
a great mommy
skeletons
money
masks - that scare Alyssa
glow-in-the-dark stuff
when Baby Ty Juice smiles at us
snakes

Alyssa's List
Jesus
going on vacation
baby bunnies
my favorite dresses
lipgloss
my picture when I was a baby
tea parties

Zac's List
Jesus!
Jacob!
coffee!
Baby Ty Juice!
Aaaaalyssa!
Peanut butter & jellyyyyy!

Tyler's List (as translated by Mommy)
brothers and sister who love me very much
Mommy & Daddy
hugs
kisses
milk
 
Mommy's List
Before I could say anything, Jake said, "I know what - Daddy." Daddy's always at the top of my list.
4 healthy little Blessings
being a stay-at-home, homeschooling mommy
fantastic parents we can call our best friends
a relationship with my merciful Savior
books, lots of books
kitchen gadgets (food processor, crock pot, bread machine, rotisserre oven- to name a few)
canning
folded laundry
a clean kitchen
coupons/saving money
mint cookies & cream ice cream
hearing my kids giggle
hearing "I love you"
hugs and kisses (even slobbery baby kisses)
ice water
geocaching
warm, fudgy brownies
organizing
hearing my kids make their Happiness Happens Lists

 . . . and on and on and on 


Obviously, there are many more things we could add (house, electricity, running water, heat/ac, vehicles, food, insurance, job, etc.) Happiness is everywhere if you take the time to notice.

If you're happy and you know it, comment below!

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Friday, August 12, 2011

Things That Make Me Smile 8/12/11

Here we are at week two of Things That Make Me Smile. It's hard to believe that a week has passed since I posted the first one.

1. Jake woke up sick on Monday. The poor boy felt absolutely miserable. During one of his trips to the bathroom, he asked, "Can you pray that I won't be sick anymore?" It brought a smile to my lips and tears to my eyes. We prayed right there in the bathroom.

2. He asked a little later, "Am I just going to be sick today." After being assured that this was probably the case, he said, "Then I can't wait til tomorrow." (He was actually feeling 100% by early afternoon and no one else even felt queasy. Prayer works!) 

3.  I was trying to explain to Alyssa and Zachary that Jake had a stomach bug and didn't want them climbing all over him. Alyssa asked, "Is it like a crawly bug? Did it climb into his mouth and crawl down his throat into his belly?"   

4. I've been trying to incorporate more fun into their lunches. I like using our cookies cutters to make fun shapes in their sandwiches. This week, I made Alyssa a flower using Clementine orange segments for the petals and a cucumber stem. It was a hit! We've done it multiple days since.

PB&J sandwich with edible gel face, mandarin orange petals, & pickle stem

5. Zac and I practiced letter recognition using the letter pretzels. We got in some learning and a snack! I love listening to him say the letters. "Eeeeeee! Oooooo! Sssssss!"

6. While Jake was cleaning his room: "This room is going to be as clean as an apple!"

7. Jake finally figured out how to pump his legs on the swing! Now he can really get himself going without a push. He's always loved swinging, but needed someone to push him. It makes me happy that now he can have fun even when I'm too busy to play.

8. Jake woke up and cuddled with me on the couch for a few minutes. When I yawned, he asked, "Why are you tired?" I replied, "Well, I've already been up for a little while. I read my Bible and prayed. I made my bed, cleaned the bathroom, emptied the dishwasher, and folded some clothes." His eyes got huge and his jaw just about hit the floor. "You did all that while I was sleeping?!?"

9. Alyssa was picking itty bitty flowers (weeds) for me. Jake came over with a flower behind his back too. He said, "I just had to stop swinging and pick it for you since it was the prettiest one."


10. Zac's nose had been running all day. Like a typical toddler, he'd let the snot drip down without a complaint. I walked over and wiped  his nose. He cheerfully said, "Dank Do!"  (thank you)

11. Alyssa fell off Jake's bed and hit her head on the bookshelf. As I was comforting her, Jake decided to cheer her up by "spraying" himself in the face with whipped cream, pretend banging his head on a chair and falling over, balancing toys on his head, and such. It didn't take long before she was laughing so hard that she was falling over on the floor (no head hitting this time.)

12. Jake and Alyssa were playing that they were getting married. They both got dressed up. While Jake was laying out a red blanket for a walkway and constructing a Lego cake, Alyssa was extremely giddy. "I'm getting married! I'm getting married!" She was giggling like it truly was her wedding day.


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Friday, August 5, 2011

Things That Make Me Smile 8/5/11

Yesterday, it hit me. Out of the blue, it hit me. I was preparing breakfast for my kids, and it hit me. I am incredibly blessed, like blessed-beyond-measure blessed. I'm married to the man God created me to complete. Together, we've been entrusted with 3 precious souls to raise. I have phenomenal parents, who are our best friends. Our every need is supplied by the God of the universe. 

I could go on and on and bore you for days with my innumerable blessings. Instead, I'll give you a highlight of the Things That Made Me Smile this week.  



1. Jake rubber banded (Is rubber band a verb??)  two pencils together. He would twist the top pencil and watch it spin once he let go. He was proud of his "science experiment."

2. Zac's newest phrase before performing for me: "Mom, wa dis!" (watch this)

3. We pulled out ALL the pillows (and bean bag) in the house and put them in a big pile in the living room. The kids had a blast jumping and wrestling on the cushy mountain. They all enjoyed jumping off the couch into the pile, especially Zac. They played for over an hour!

4. We pulled out our Berenstain Bears collection (48 books!) and are enjoying a reading marathon. We read 7 books the first day and 4-5 books every day since.  Most of them are from my childhood. I'm glad my kids love them too. Plus, I get to re-read them. Bonus!

5. I painted Alyssa's fingernails and toenails. Zac desperately wanted his painted too. He settled for blowing on his hands and feet right along with his sister. It was so cute watching him raise his foot to his mouth and blow.

6. While reading one of the Berestain Bears books, Too Much Birthday, Jake argued with the authors:
          Book: "Papa felled the tree."
          Jake: "You mean the tree fell."
          Me: "No, Papa felled the tree."
          Jake: "No, it's the tree fell."
          Me: Fell can be a different kind of verb, too.
          Jake: {Looks at me in disbelief as I continue with the story}

7. Zac has carried one of Alyssa's purses around all week. And what does he keep inside? Cars. Lots and lots of cars.

8. Zac grabbed a box of macaroni noodles off the counter as I was preparing dinner. He opened them up and tossed an uncooked noodle in his mouth before I could stop him. "Mmmm!" Then he ate some more and "mmm"ed the whole time.

9. I walked into the living room and Blue's Clues was playing on the TV. 
       Me: "Who turned this on?"
       Jake: "I turned it on for Zachy."
       Me: "Why?"
       Jake: "He asked me to."
       Zac: {pointing} "Bue's Cues!!!"

10. We went grocery shopping. The kids were ecstatic when I grabbed a bag of red delicious apples and a bag of Clementine oranges and placed them in the cart. They were cheering in the middle of the store. Yea for healthy snacks!

11. Zac has a cell phone obsession. He gathers all the unused phones and hordes them. He's been "talking" on a phone for a while now, but this week, he started mimicking. "Hewo, ummm. No. Nope. Nuh-uh. Shhh." 

Thanks for letting me reflect a little on my week. I hope some of these events made you smile, as well.
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